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On August 16th 2008, with tears of joy in my eyes, I took my best friend as my husband and wanted nothing more than to spend my life with him and one day see our children looking up at him with love and adoration soaking through them. It was a specific moment on our wedding day that I'll never forget. I remember looking at him, and thinking... "I can't believe he chose me!", followed quickly by "He is going to be such an amazing father!"
Little did I know that the point between then and now would be followed by years of infertility, multiple miscarriages, two different Reproductive Endocrinologists (RE) on the East Coast, an MRI, an HSG, countless blood tests and scopes, seeing Naturopathic Doctors, and acupuncturists, a move across the country, meeting with yet another RE, telling the whole story all over again, learning I have endometriosis that had gone undiagnosed for years, another MRI, scheduled for surgery to cure endometriosis, learning that the surgery did not fix the endo, then to the decision to pull out the big guns and go for IVF.
Since moving to British Columbia, we are now with a phenomenal Reproductive Endocrinologist who we love! The level of care between here and what we received on the east coast is literally worlds apart, and we're both certain we would have had no hopes of having children if we had staid in our previous city, with our previous doctors. The doctor we are seeing now is rated as one of the top REs in Canada and it certainly shows. We have made more progress here in B.C. in the last 6 months than we had in the entire 3 years prior. As he works along side his wife and daughters in his clinic it is clear that family is what drives him to be so dedicated to his work.
On December 8th, 2011 I had a laparoscopy which we had thought would cure the endometriosis, along with a few other issues which have been interfering with our ability to get pregnant and stay pregnant. Immediately after the surgery, hubby and I were over the moon that the issues which were getting in our way had been resolved and we could finally focus on baby - or so we thought. The next morning the surgeon gave us the heartbreaking news that I have stage 4 endometriosis and they were unable to treat that level of endo laparoscopically. With the help of my wonderful husband, I spent the next few weeks trying hard to heal from the physically and emotionally painful surgery. We were given the choice of opting for another surgery which would have to be done via bikini cut (c-section cut) which may treat the endometriosis which may or may not help us get pregnant and stay pregnant, or bypass the ovaries and endometriosis all together and move forward with IVF - it's own personal rollercoaster within the rollercoaster of infertility.
Obviously, since I'm writing this, after a lot of soul searching, hard decision making, prayers, chatting with our doctors, and long talks with each other, hubby and I have decided to move forward with IVF. It will be an interesting and rigorous journey I'm sure, with its own ups and downs.
For the past few years I've been very open, honest and downright public about our infertility journey, both with friends and family as well as on Up, Down & Natural and Natural Parents Network - but always with a slight look back at how things have gone and what I have learned. With our IVF journey, I plan to blog and chronicle this process as it happens. It will be a rigorous journey, undoubtedly with tears, laughs, sighs of hopefulness and lots of baby day dreaming. My goal is to, through our journey, be able to reach out to couples who are going through any form of Assisted Reproductive Therapy and if possible, break a little of the silence around infertility.
As Arpita and her husband enter their fourth year of trying to conceive their first child, she is trying to embrace the lessons the universe still has to teach her. Arpita wears her heart on her sleeve on her blog, about trying to conceive both naturally as well as with medical help, as she and her husband are currently preparing for their first IVF Cycle. Arpita writes to shed light on the infertility experience, natural parenting and everything and anything in mommy-world including easy recipes and loads of giveaways. She blogs at Up, Down & Natural. You can also find her on Facebook, Twitter and Pinterest.